Rightly, we’re starting to demand justice for our sisters. But how often do we stop and think about how we, as individuals, can change the reality of violence? Instead of asking “What are they doing about it?”, do we ever ask “What are we doing about it”? And how often do we take an opportunity to speak about the issue with our friends and family, or stand together and say publicly that we believe in the safety and happiness of all women?…

How do I manage conflict in my relationship?

Of course, there will always be disagreements in any partnership, but when that happens, how do I deal with it? Do I shout and swear and call my partner names, or threaten her or hit her so that I get my own way? Or do I sit down with her and try to calmly work it out? In other words, do I truly seek to love and be loved, or do I just want to be obeyed?

Do I show my sons and daughters what respect and equality really mean by trying to live a respectful life myself?

Do I do my fair share of the housework? Do I take an active role in nurturing my kids instead of just being a good-time dad? Do I treat my partner with kindness and respect by valuing her contributions and making space for her interests? Do I show my kids that a man doesn’t have to be the tough-guy in control of every situation? And do I celebrate the achievements of my boys and girls equally (or is a win in the footy somehow better than a win in netball)?

Do I talk to my kids about their world?

We know that children these days are bombarded with movies and games and ads and websites and instagrams that portray men as all-powerful warriors and studs, while portraying women as either meek nurturers or man-obsessed nymphos. Kids take those messages in. Of course, we can’t stop them from absorbing this stuff, but we can try to teach them that these images are a fiction, that real life isn’t like that, and that there are different ways to be a real man or an authentic woman. We can teach them what it means to give and expect respect.

Do I ever say anything to my friends or colleagues when they speak about women, or to women, in ways that I know are out of line?

I mean, we all know that feeling of embarrassment when one of our mates makes a joke that goes too far, or when someone runs down their partner in a really awful way, or calls out something really crass to a woman passing by. But do we ever pluck up the courage to actually say, “Hey mate, come on…”? Do I ever actually talk with my mates about this stuff at all?

Do I truly believe that men and women are equal, even if we’re different?

Do I really hope for a world where all the women I love get the same opportunities for happiness, success and safety that I want myself? Or do I secretly think that men have a special place of privilege in this world that women will never share?

princesskimmy66:

aliasvaughn:

lovepollution:

#tonytuesday

GREAT photoset!

The veins in his arms r so damn sexy!

Dear Lord. princesskimmy66:

aliasvaughn:

lovepollution:

#tonytuesday

GREAT photoset!

The veins in his arms r so damn sexy!

Dear Lord. princesskimmy66:

aliasvaughn:

lovepollution:

#tonytuesday

GREAT photoset!

The veins in his arms r so damn sexy!

Dear Lord. princesskimmy66:

aliasvaughn:

lovepollution:

#tonytuesday

GREAT photoset!

The veins in his arms r so damn sexy!

Dear Lord. princesskimmy66:

aliasvaughn:

lovepollution:

#tonytuesday

GREAT photoset!

The veins in his arms r so damn sexy!

Dear Lord. princesskimmy66:

aliasvaughn:

lovepollution:

#tonytuesday

GREAT photoset!

The veins in his arms r so damn sexy!

Dear Lord. princesskimmy66:

aliasvaughn:

lovepollution:

#tonytuesday

GREAT photoset!

The veins in his arms r so damn sexy!

Dear Lord. princesskimmy66:

aliasvaughn:

lovepollution:

#tonytuesday

GREAT photoset!

The veins in his arms r so damn sexy!

Dear Lord. princesskimmy66:

aliasvaughn:

lovepollution:

#tonytuesday

GREAT photoset!

The veins in his arms r so damn sexy!

Dear Lord. princesskimmy66:

aliasvaughn:

lovepollution:

#tonytuesday

GREAT photoset!

The veins in his arms r so damn sexy!

Dear Lord.

flarefashion:

The Women Behind the “Modest Fashion” Revolution - With the first-ever International Muslim Fashion and Design Festival taking place in Toronto next month, hijabi style is having a moment. Jennifer Goldberg talks to five chic women on the forefront of the movement

Adlina Anis, 30
Occupation: YouTube personality, designer and fashion stylist for magazines and designers including Harper’s Bazaar and DVF

“To date, I am the only hijab-wearing person in the mainstream fashion industry in Singapore. There’s a lot of prejudice and it’s really difficult for anyone wearing hijab to try to enter the fashion industry here. At first I was affected by it, but now I’m not because I’m proud of who I am. Styling on a fashion shoot is where I can express myself creatively; whatever I wear personally is who I am with God.”

Read the opinions of these five Muslim, female, fashion bloggers at http://www.flare.com/fashion/hijabi-fashion-bloggers/

A happy Piggy Wiggy Showrunner that has the "excuse" of competing with football as a reason for diminished viewership, and not the actual reason of piss-poor writing. I’d LOVE that “safeguard” too.

A happy Piggy Wiggy Showrunner that has the "excuse" of competing with football as a reason for diminished viewership, and not the actual reason of piss-poor writing. I’d LOVE that “safeguard” too.

miaadamswhat:

sale-aholic:

miaadamswhat:

goddesscru:

blackstaraura:

geejayeff:

Unfuckingbelievable!

Ugh!

Wow. Fucking wow. I’m responsible for you not knowing not to put your hands on me? Christ.

Well the response I got from a woman on twitter is that if you do something wrong then expect repercussions. Some people are crazy.

miaadamswhat That’s why some stupid and pathetic women thought that it was ok for Olivia to be choked on her own show.

That was the response about Joke was entitled to hit and choke Olivia.Talking to them gave me a headache.

WTF?! It’s SICKENING that there are people (male and female) that continue to hold these beliefs, and think they can reason the behaviour of abusive men real and fictional. They want women to “check” their behaviour and “consider their actions” before proceeding, but DON’T make the same demands of men. They want women to take preventative steps to stop the actions of abusive men, but NEVER advocate for men to think before carrying out their OWN actions. They hold us responsible for the actions of men, but supposedly not responsible enough to know and manage our own bodies and reproductive systems. F@*K these A-HOLES!